Do you know that marriage is not what makes you a wife?
As a matter of fact, there is need to become a wife before you get married. Don't wait till you get married, before you embark on the journey of becoming a wife. 

He who finds a wife finds a good thing, And obtains favor from the Lord

Proverbs 18:22 NKJV

Not every lady of marriageable age is a wife, and in fact not every married woman is a wife. Wifehood is something you consciously become, not a status you acquire.

If you become a wife before you get married, you already start being a favour to your man, a good thing, pleasant and valuable. Your man already starts to obtain favour from the Lord. 
I remember while I was in a relationship, I would confess regularly that my husband (then my fiance) obtains favour from the Lord, because he had found me (a wife), and anytime he enjoys a favour in his life, I was not always surprised, because I knew he had found a wife...hulalaaaa

So how do you become a wife, even before marriage?

1. Having a relationship with God.
Loving the Lord with your heart, mind and body. Deeply sold out to the Lord, such that His love takes you over, and you fellowship and commune with him through the word. In the place of fellowship, you receive directions for living, you receive the ability to practise God's word.

2. Developing character and virtues.
Take a conscious effort to develop character. Learn the love-walk, learn the use of tongue, learn patience, practise wisdom, develop yourself intellectually, learn necessary skills, gain knowledge.

3. Learn from wives, both in the Bible and around you.
Study the characters of virtuous women in the Bible, and learn from them.. you can also read books that has to do with godly womanhood. Learn from wives that are around you, whether single or married.

If you get married, without becoming a wife, of course,, people will refer to you as 'wife' but you are just a married woman. 

The good thing is that even if you are married, and no matter how long, you can always embark on the journey of becoming a wife, and let your husband begin to enjoy favour from the Lord....


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